The Flutters Blog

Your relationship with your partner or spouse will inevitably change after having a baby. It can be harder to find time to go out on dates and do activities together. Increased household tasks and parenting can make it feel like there is no time for the relationship anymore. It can be easy to put the relationship last, but prioritizing the relationship has a lot of benefits.

There is so much information out there to support us in our journeys into parenthood. Below are the ones that I found most helpful and why. I had my moments in early postpartum where I did general Google searches and I found that it made me doubt myself and feel more anxious. Once I stopped doing that, I felt like I was able to gain more confidence and better follow my intuition.

It might feel selfish to put any priority on yourself after having a baby. If you aren’t cared for though, it will feel harder to care for your baby. The newborn and infant periods are extremely demanding. Prioritizing taking time for yourself amidst all the chaos will help you be more present and feel more relaxed in your role as a mother.

Last year, I was featured in a Motherly article about doomscrolling and I think it continues to be a problem for a lot of parents. It is so normal to feel confused about what might be happening with your baby and to wonder what it is normal, especially for first time parents. Just because the internet is there, it doesn’t mean we should go to it immediately.